Get a Second Opinion #2
There are three options below to help you get a second opinion around your CPVs, in an ideal world it would be great to try them all, but go with whichever ones feel best for you.
Choose 3 or more of your closest and most trusted friends or family and send them an email (or text) with the following:
“I am taking part in a course to identify my Core Personal Values and as someone close to me, I’d love to ask you for some feedback. If you had to choose 3-5 words that best described me as a person, what would they be and why?”
This is always a fascinating exercise and the more trusted friends & family you can get feedback from, the better. At its worst it will give you an idea of how you come across to people and how this measures up against your CPVs, but it can also yield some fabulous insight that you might not otherwise have noticed.
When I last did this exercise, amongst others, I asked my two daughters, Alice 20 and Lucy 25, for their feedback. I shouldn’t tell you this (but I’m going to), Lucy came back with this darling little collection for me:
Mother, Strong, Courageous & A Wee bit Cun*y.
I have to confess I spat my coffee out at Starbucks when I read her answer and laughed out loud, but you know what? On reflection I am more than happy to claim “a wee bit cun*y” because, I am! Although in the spirit of full disclosure, it didn’t make my final CPVs list.
Choose 3 of your closest and most trusted friends or family and send them an email (or text) with the following:
“I am taking part in a course to identify my Core Personal Values and as someone close to me, I’d love to know what you think of the list below. Do you feel they represent me? Are there any that you feel don’t quite fit or conversely, are there any that you would add? Does it feel like I’ve captured the order of importance from 1-x well? I’d really appreciate your help with this, so any feedback would be amazing”.
Include a list of your values and of course, feel free to rephrase the text as you want to. This is probably the most confronting of all the options as you don’t know what you’re going to get back and you’ve shared your soul values with another person. Asking someone to be a mirror for you can be really helpful so if there are a few people you trust with this, I’d encourage you to go ahead and give it a try.
This is perhaps the easiest option and one to try on for size whatever else you do. This option is simply about weaving your CPVs into conversation with friends and family during Module 2 of the course. This isn’t so much a game of “how many value words can I cram into a sentence before someone notices”, but more a case of water-cooler chats about the course and maybe talk about one or two of the words that you’ve discovered. Watch for reactions and maybe even ask people you trust what they think about them.