Create the "Big List"

Creating a list of values can be pretty heavy-going but we do like a nice list, so I’m positive you’re up to the task! I have found it really helpful to start the process of finding your CPVs with a long list of value words, and so I have included a list of 350+ for you to download (click on the image to download the un-sexy but printer-friendly PDF).

Start by simply choosing the ones that resonate with you the most (or conversely that don’t). Try using a highlighter pen and just picking out the ones that grab you.  Don’t overthink it – try tapping into your intuition and don’t spend too much time up in your head.

If you find yourself trying to shoehorn a value onto your list because you feel like it should be on there (as that would somehow make you a “good” person) – there’s a fair chance that value is not for you and that your ego is in the driving seat and not your intuition.  Anything that feels like you are choosing it to conform, perform or impress will be coming from the same place; you are looking for those words that make you go “YEEEESSS”, not the ones that feel obligatory.

Try to keep in mind that there are no “bad” values on this list, they are all just words. If you are placing a negative connotation onto certain values, this is worth reflecting on as there is likely to be more going on here and that is worth exploring.  Your values are just that – yours – nobody gets to judge whether they are a good list or a bad list, they’re 100% yours and they are only powerful in your life if they are genuine and truly you.

I can find it helpful to do this part of the exercise in several stages.  Take a first pass with a coffee and just trim out the ones that really don’t resonate – maybe even cross them out with a Sharpie. Come back to it with fresh eyes after a day or so and just keep going until you've narrowed it down to less than fifty.

Important Note: Your journal or notepad is pretty key here as this is not just a highlighter and sharpie exercise, a lot of it is what feels right, so head on over to your journal now and take some time with the prompts below. It's also worth saying that although there are over 350 words in the PDF there might be words that really speak to you and are not in the list - go ahead and add them to your long list.

 JOURNAL PROMPTS

  • I was happiest, most fulfilled and feeling “at one with the world” when I was doing or being...

  • The values I was living and breathing at that time were...

  • Things that really pi*s me off or frustrate the hell out of me are… This makes me feel…

  • The values that are being ignored when I have these pi*sed off feelings are...
    (it is worth noting that sometimes when something really winds us up and we can’t let it go this will be because someone, or something, {often ourselves} are disregarding one of our CPVs).